Abuse is described as any behavior that is designed to subjugate and control another individual through the use of manipulation, coercion, guilt, intimidation, humiliation, fear etc. Emotional abuse is defined as any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature. It can include anything from constant criticisms and verbal abuse to more subtle tactics like refusal to ever be pleased or repeated disapproval.
Emotional abuse is similar to brain washing because it systematically wears away a person’s self concept, trust in their own perceptions, sense of self-worth and self-confidence. Whether it is done by constant belittling and berating, or under the guise of “advice”, “teaching”, or guidance, or by intimidation, the results are similar. Eventually, the victim loses all remnants of personal value and sense of self.
Emotional abuse cuts the very core of a human being, creating scars that are more lasting and far deeper than physical ones. Victims of this kind of abuse can be convinced they are worthless to the point that they believe no one else could need/want them. They remain in abusive situations because they believe there is nowhere else they can be accepted. Their main fear is being left all alone.
Main types of emotional abuse
1. Abuse expectations:
Another person places unreasonable demands on you, wanting you to put your needs aside and tend to theirs. It could a requirement you spend all your free time with them, or a demand for constant attention. But no matter how much is given, it is never enough. You are subjected to criticism constantly, and you are consistently berated because you have not fulfilled the needs of the abuser.
Ordering, threatening, blaming, accusing and name-calling are some forms of aggressive abuse. Aggressive behaviors are generally obvious and direct.
3. Constant chaos:
The other person may be in constant conflicts with others and start arguments deliberately. The abuser may be “addicted to drama” due to the excitement created.
A person who wants to control everything you do. They need to have their own way and even resort to threats to get it. You can lose respect for yourself when you allow some else to dominate you.
Emotional abuse treatments
It takes courage to stop emotional abuse. The following techniques can be used to stop emotional abuse:
· Practice being more firm in other situations, so that you can be more assertive when in an emotionally abusive situation
- Act out with responses that will assist the situation and not out of emotion
- Speak in a clear, calm voice and state expectations that are reasonable like “Stop teasing me”
- Regain control of the situation by looking the abuser in the eye and acting confidently
- Spiritual healing can also be used in treatment of social abuse
Alternatively, you treatment can be gotten form professionals who are experts in the field. For example, Robert Kirby Sydney, Australia, has been helping groups and individuals make profound changes in their lives by understanding themselves better. Robert Kirby Sydney can assist anyone in suffering from emotional abuse to improve their lives. For further information please visit http://perth.consciouslivingexpo.com.au/speakers/robert-kirby/.